When I hear that, I automatically think their spouse, lover, or partner must be a lucky person. They are so regularly showered with words and acts of love they don’t need that February 14 boost at all.
Then there’s the rest of us who curse the chores of life, the demands loving obligations bring. I can’t say I’ve thanked my lucky stars as I’ve cleaned up mud-caked floors and listened to the grumblings over a dinner they don’t particularly like. Again.
My husband and I always kiss each other goodbye. We don’t care who’s watching. We say, “I love you,” every time we leave each other and at the end of a phone call. We make time for each other. It takes a lot of energy to keep up those loving feelings year after year – sometimes day after day during a particularly rough patch. I probably could say we don’t need Valentine’s Day to show affection or be reminded of it. But I think it’s a day to do something extra and if you haven’t done much lately, maybe it’s the day you begin again or try harder. And if you’re a single person, spoil your pet, the neighbor, your grandparent, a neighbor child a little bit. Bring something homemade, give a compliment, offer a helping hand.
If I’ve learned anything in the past few months its that those we love can be gone in an instant. The ferocious pain of those losses has blistered my heart. More will come, yes, but this Valentine’s Day for me is more about trying to minimize the regrets.
Think about it.
Thanks for spending time with me today.
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